There has been a lot of debate around breastfeeding and formula. The majority of it is focused around benefits for the baby. This framing misunderstands and minimises where these benefits come from. The benefits to babies are rooted in a safe, secure attachment to their mother. In parallel to the therapeutic relationship, the benefits begin…

Last month I returned home. It had been nearly a year. My phantom limb of a mother is still in Texas, where I grew up. We were once close. It has been years since we spoke at depth, without the sense of urgency and loops of her creeping dementia and the eventual near silence of…

Ever since the first time I heard the term ‘trauma dumping’, I have felt an unease about it. ‘Trauma dumping’ is a term that is used to describe when someone shares intense, personal and distressing emotional experiences with another person without warning, consent or consideration for their capacity to handle it. While not a formal…